The statistics aren’t pretty: nearly half of all marriages end in divorce. As therapists, we see every day that the issues that broke a relationship apart after 5, 10, or 20 years, are issues that the couple could have started working on long before they became a wedge between them.
That is one of the many important reasons that premarital counseling should be sought out when couples are considering marriage. In fact, pre-engagement counseling would be even better–working through important issues and creating a plan for your marriage before the wedding invitations are sent–but, pre-engagement is a romantic ideal.
If you live in the greater Boston area and are considering marriage, or have a wedding on the books, Thriveworks offers professional premarital counseling in Boston and Cambridge, MA (as well as Westborough, MA). Through the premarital counseling process, couples will learn improved skills to communicate in marriage, identify potential conflict areas, resolve conflict effectively, and begin to create a “marriage mission and plan.” Marriage is a partnership. It’s a romantic partnership, a domestic partnership, and an economic partnership. Some commonly covered ground in premarital counseling includes:
- Role expectations
- Conflict resolution
- Fighting “fair” in marriage
- Religion and/or church issues
- Budget and finance
- Children and parenting (family planning)
- The need for space
When should a couple seek premarital counseling at Thriveworks Boston?
Premarital counseling is normally sought out “pre-marriage” but it is also necessary and useful for those contemplating marriage. Premarital counseling can be beneficial for those not sure of the next step, and can also help those that are engaged and are preparing for marriage.
Boston Premarital Counseling for Those Contemplating Marriage
Premarital counseling can help a person in a relationship who is “non-committal” learn what barriers they may have; counseling can help a couple resolve issues they cannot seem to get past; and premarital counseling can help educate couples on marriage.
Just because you do premarital counseling does not mean “you are getting married.” In fact, sometimes couples go through premarital counseling, and find it best that they do not pursue marriage, and they both go on to live happy and healthy lives separately.
Boston Premarital Counseling For Those Ready to Tie the Knot
The benefit of premarital counseling is endless; research has shown the premarital counseling can reduce divorce rates and the pre-marriage jitters. You do not have to have a problem to seek premarital counseling. In fact, premarital counseling can be used to strengthen your relationship and help you communicate better. Premarital counseling helps couples prepare for conflicts that may lay ahead.
Furthermore: premarital counseling can help open up discussions that you feel uncomfortable bringing up yourself. Counseling does not mean you have a problem—it means that you are strong enough to learn to prevent future problems.
We want you and your partner to find the help, care, motivation, or information you are looking for. Call us at 617-395-5806, Monday-Friday, 8:00am – 5:30pm to schedule your appointment.